Thursday 20 September 2012

The Care Giver.....


 

Spouse, husband, wife, partner, girlfriend or relative who ever you are, we all take on the role of a care giver...

 
Care giving for a veteran, especially with PTSD places a strain on the entire family. PTSD can be viewed as a chronic illness, and the person with PTSD may require constant care from a loved one, such as a wife or husband. Partners of people with PTSD may be faced with a number of stressors that go along with caring for and living with someone with a chronic disorder. These stressors include financial strain, managing the person's symptoms, dealing with crises, loss of friends, or loss of intimacy. This for me has become more and more of a reality over the last six months.

Due to a loved one's illness, caregivers may be the only people who can take care of such stressors. This puts a large burden on them, and as a result, they may experience tremendous strain and stress, or care giver burden. As well the person living with or dealing with someone with PTSD may find themselves suffering not only from care givers burden but secondary PTSD as well. I intend to look further into this theory at a later date.

Care givers may feel guilty if they take time for themselves or feel stressed out as a result of caring for someone, especially when a loved one is struggling with a serious diagnosis like PTSD. However, it is important for care givers to realise that they too need time to "recharge their batteries." Living with and caring for someone with PTSD is stressful in its own right. The more a caregiver can learn how to care for themselves, the better they will be able to care for others. I’ve had to learn to cope with the guilt of needing time out every now again, after all I’m only human!

 

Reaching out to fellow spouses......

Hi my name is Karen, and I'm a veteran PTSD suffers wife....

Welcome to my therapy ha ha. So you maybe wondering what my reason is for creating this blog.... and it's a fairly simple one.....After trawling the Internet far and wide I've come to realise that although PTSD is fairly well recognised now in the UK, that sadly the family members who support that suffer are NOT.

So i shall begin with my little story, for they say there is a story in all of us so here's Our story so far, My husband a Army veteran of 11 years, has been "formally diagnosed" with PTSD and recurrent depressive disorder, HURRAH at long last a label for whats been going on for many, many years being suffered in silence. "I'm officially a nut nut" my hubby said.

However the diagnosis is only the start of a very long journey both for my husband who suffers from it and for our family, and the effects it has upon our day to day lives.

My main reason for setting up this blog, to reach out to other spouses of veteran PTSD sufferers and maybe learn and educate along the way alittle about the thing we all live with and suffer (direct or indirectly) the effects of  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or more simply put....PTSD.

So welcome, and buckle up it really is quite a rollercoster ride.